A new study reveals that more and more people are meeting through the Internet
“The study was focused exclusively on heterosexual couples (we'll get to same-sex couples in a moment), but the results from the study show that before 1995, 0% of couples reported to have met online, but as of the 2019 study, that number was now almost 40%.
This has replaced what had essentially been the most popular form of meeting potential partners – through a friend – which had maintained a hold of between 25% and 35% for the last 60 or so years.
As you can see, meeting through (or being) co-workers, meeting through a family member, meeting in school, meeting in college, or meeting in church have all dropped significantly since the arrival of the internet, with meeting as (or through) a neighbour now found to be the absolute dead-last way to meet a partner.
The same study found that 65% of same-sex couples meet through the internet, a number that is consistent with a similar study performed in 2009, and this is most likely down to a narrower potential to find a partner in bars or restaurants, and the specificity that online dating can be bring for those looking within a smaller dating pool.” Read more…
So what do you do if you see a co-worker on a dating site?
“You're sitting on your couch, half paying attention to Fight Club playing on cable for the 4 zillionth time, swiping through today's offering of would-be love interests, when a familiar face pops up.
It's Stu, the guy from accounting who fails to make eye contact in the break room.
Actually, it doesn't have to be. This might be one of a very small cluster of situations where the best course of action to take is to just. Do. Nothing.
That's right, you have permission to not turn this into a thing.
In the world of online dating, where apps often use proximity to show you profiles (local singles IN YOUR AREA!), you're bound to run into people you know. It will make you feel weird and probably a little self-conscious to think you've got some unearned window into someone's private life … and to think they might be on the other side of that window looking back.
While it might feel like you need to say something or make a joke or acknowledge that you're both here, it's unnecessary and accomplishes nothing. Keep swiping. If your desire to make contact is to mitigate your own discomfort at being seen… A) That's your deal, not theirs B) You're going to make it worse.
Let me tack something else on to this: I know you looked at their profile. It's too tempting and you totally snooped on what they're looking for and what they have to say about themselves, and now you know their hobbies include cooking and quoting liberally from The Office.
Whatever you find on there, keep it to yourself. In truth, you don't know what they've told other people at work, what info is known and what's not, and you probably wouldn't like it if they went around describing your profile.
In short: Just leave Stu alone, man.” Read more…
source http://www.professionalslifestyle.com/dating-a-coworker/
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